A teenage girl with daddy issues, meets an older man and foolishly develops a crush. This older man leads her on, and encourages this inappropriate crush, until the young girl truly believes that she is in love. The man seeing that this could never be, love between a teenager and a man well past mid life, he tells the girl to stop contacting him, that he doesn't care about her, and that she must move on. Knowing how teenage girls can be, this girl goes into a depression, she feels that her heart is broken and that her life is over. Her friends and family are more than thrilled that this man has left her alone as they can plainly see that he is trouble. They could never tell this to the girl though, because being foolish and "in love" she continues to defend him, and his honor. Then one day the man returns to this girls life. He has selfishly decided that he wants this girl all for himself. She takes him back and throws herself into his arms and into his life. . He is over bearing and over protective, some may say jealous, and controls her every move. He knows where she is and who she is with at all times. He tells her that he loves her, but his actions are a little off. He then insists that she marry him. So that she is his and his alone. She reluctantly agrees. She knows she is too young for marriage and really doesn't believe in it, but she will do anything to make him happy. They get married, and after a while she gets pregnant. During her pregnancy he is unsupportive. He doesn't want a baby, not at this point in his life. He has never wanted children and pushes her every day to get an abortion. She is too in love with him and the thought of having his child that she refuses. This does not stop him from being aggressive about his thoughts on this baby. He prays on her naivity and her inexperience in love ,by taking her away from her family, and her friends. She can never see them again, not as long as she is with him, he makes this very clear. Again, because she is in love she agrees. He takes from her, her sense of self, and her life. She is all about him and nothing more.
If I told you a story that went a little something like this, what would your thoughts be? Would you think that this is a happy ending? Is this what you would want for your friend, you daughter or for yourself? Is this the type of story we would tell our children as a warning of what could be?
This story line is taken from the Twilight saga. Twilight: the on set of darkness, couldn't have said it better myself. A saga that has teenager girls, (and their mothers, who really should know better) swooning over the dreamy vampire that essentially does all of the above and yet it is considered in their eyes to be romantic. A story of true love. A happy ending. I dunno about you, but I find this disturbing and very much so. It bothers me to think of young girls seeing this as anything but what it is.. a creepy old guy taking advantage of a young girl and eventually taking her life, literally in this case.
Oh yes, we had our bad boys. What girl doesn't love the bad boy. All of our bad boys were viewed that way by society or parents or teachers, but they were always misunderstood and needed the love of a good woman, Johnny Castle, Danny Zucko, and Maverick, are a few that come to my mind. Who doesn't know the line " no one puts baby in the corner" ahh yes now that is romance.. they danced. He didn't kill her.
Love is not about what you will sacrifice for the other person, to make them love you. Love is not about giving up who you are, what you believe in and changing that for the person to make them love you. Love is not truly understood by a 17 year old girl
I cannot possibly be the only one who sees what is wrong with this picture. This is 100% setting the wrong example for young girls. Give up everything for the man you think you love in high school... where would we be if we did that. If we had given our lives at 17 and chosen to live an eternity with our so called true love at the time.. how many of us would be kicking ourselves in the ass everyday for eternity for the stupid choice we made when we were barely old enough to take care of ourselves. Yet, this is the message of true love that is being delivered to our youth. And if this wasn't enough, they add in an adult werewolf who falls in love with a newborn baby. If this is the new version of romance hollywood and idiot teenage girls can keep it. You can call me old fashioned, I call it rationality. And you can bet I will preach it, to any young girl who needs a good dose of reality.
Tuesday, March 6, 2012
Tuesday, February 14, 2012
Happy Valentines Day....
The holiday of Valentine's Day probably derives its origins from the ancient Roman feast of Lupercalia. In the early days of Rome, fierce wolves roamed the woods nearby. The Romans called upon one of their gods, Lupercus, to keep the wolves away. A festival held in honor of Lupercus was celebrated February 15th. The festival was celebrated as a spring festival. Their calendar was different at that time, with February falling in early springtime.
One of the customs of the young people was name drawing. On the eve of the festival of Lupercalia the names of Roman girls were written on slips of paper and placed into jars. Each young man drew a slip. The girl whose name was chosen was to be his sweetheart for the year
Legend has it that the holiday became Valentine's Day after a priest named Valentine. Valentine was a priest in Rome at the time Christianity was a new religion. The Emperor at that time, Claudius II, ordered the Roman soldiers NOT to marry or become engaged. Claudius believed that as married men, his soldiers would want to stay home with their families rather than fight his wars. Valentine defied the Emperor's decree and secretly married the young couples. He was eventually arrested, imprisoned, and put to death
Valentine was beheaded on February 14th, the eve of the Roman holiday Lupercalia. After his death, Valentine was named saint. As Rome became more Christian, the priests moved the spring holiday from the 15th of February to the 14th - Valentine's Day. Now the holiday honored Saint Valentine instead of Lupercus.
Now let me ask you this what the hell does any of this have to do with chocolate hearts and flowers..nothing yup you heard it here first nothing. Valentines day is just a sham. a ridicoulos holiday fashioned to make those of us not "in love" feel lonely and inadaquate. Oh I have no one to give me chocolate and flowers which we have already eshtablished has nothing at all to do with anything. It's stupid and silly. All weekend I watched commercial after commercial "show her you love her with a $700 diamond heart pendant" like that is the only way to show true love on Valentines day. What happened to the words "I love you" or a hug or anything for that matter. However if you don't go out of your way to impress on this sham of a holiday you get the height of hell. You are dubbed an asshole insensitive and a jerk. And why? Cause in the early days of Rome, fierce wolves roamed the woods nearby. The Romans called upon one of their gods, Lupercus, to keep the wolves away. A festival held in honor of Lupercus was celebrated February 15th. Does this really make any sense to anyone?? Cause it sure as hell doesn't to me. I appreciate a gesture of love just like anyone but I would rather receive it from the heart not from Hallmark. So for all of you who do or don't receive diamonds flower or chocolate remember it doesn't really matter anyways cause apparently Valentines day has nothing to do with love at all. Fierce wolves and be headings don't exactly coincide with the warm fuzzy feelings of love. I guess chocolate and flowers are better that receiving a head in a box or a fierce wolf delivered to your door, they still don't make any damn sense to me. I hate Valentine's Day I just thought I would share some ramblings with those of you I love. Instead of the traditional diamonds and flowers.
One of the customs of the young people was name drawing. On the eve of the festival of Lupercalia the names of Roman girls were written on slips of paper and placed into jars. Each young man drew a slip. The girl whose name was chosen was to be his sweetheart for the year
Legend has it that the holiday became Valentine's Day after a priest named Valentine. Valentine was a priest in Rome at the time Christianity was a new religion. The Emperor at that time, Claudius II, ordered the Roman soldiers NOT to marry or become engaged. Claudius believed that as married men, his soldiers would want to stay home with their families rather than fight his wars. Valentine defied the Emperor's decree and secretly married the young couples. He was eventually arrested, imprisoned, and put to death
Valentine was beheaded on February 14th, the eve of the Roman holiday Lupercalia. After his death, Valentine was named saint. As Rome became more Christian, the priests moved the spring holiday from the 15th of February to the 14th - Valentine's Day. Now the holiday honored Saint Valentine instead of Lupercus.
Now let me ask you this what the hell does any of this have to do with chocolate hearts and flowers..nothing yup you heard it here first nothing. Valentines day is just a sham. a ridicoulos holiday fashioned to make those of us not "in love" feel lonely and inadaquate. Oh I have no one to give me chocolate and flowers which we have already eshtablished has nothing at all to do with anything. It's stupid and silly. All weekend I watched commercial after commercial "show her you love her with a $700 diamond heart pendant" like that is the only way to show true love on Valentines day. What happened to the words "I love you" or a hug or anything for that matter. However if you don't go out of your way to impress on this sham of a holiday you get the height of hell. You are dubbed an asshole insensitive and a jerk. And why? Cause in the early days of Rome, fierce wolves roamed the woods nearby. The Romans called upon one of their gods, Lupercus, to keep the wolves away. A festival held in honor of Lupercus was celebrated February 15th. Does this really make any sense to anyone?? Cause it sure as hell doesn't to me. I appreciate a gesture of love just like anyone but I would rather receive it from the heart not from Hallmark. So for all of you who do or don't receive diamonds flower or chocolate remember it doesn't really matter anyways cause apparently Valentines day has nothing to do with love at all. Fierce wolves and be headings don't exactly coincide with the warm fuzzy feelings of love. I guess chocolate and flowers are better that receiving a head in a box or a fierce wolf delivered to your door, they still don't make any damn sense to me. I hate Valentine's Day I just thought I would share some ramblings with those of you I love. Instead of the traditional diamonds and flowers.
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